Humanistic psychology is a view that focuses on understanding subjective human experience. As a collection, humanistic psychologists are interested in human problems. Self-image is your perception of your own body, personality, and capabilities. Self-evaluation refers to the beneficial and negative feelings you have about yourself. A frame of reference is a mental or emotional perspective used for evaluating evens. Therefore, humanist seeks to understand how people perceive themselves and experience the World. And that is why psychologist tells you to focus on yourself and figure out how you can be a better version of yourself. Forget all about how stuck up and rich Sarah Ludlow is. If you do not like her, it is because there is something wrong with you, she does not even know you exists. At one time, people were loyal to each other, but there is a lot of suffering in the World and people become jealous. That is why you need to know the difference between your friends, co-workers and acquaintances. Terry Darlington reports, all that evil requires is an absence of virtue, where somebody didn’t make a stand.

A friend is someone who truly knows you, and cares about you, you two share a mutual attraction or a bond and are able to trust each other. An acquaintance is someone you just met, or someone who knows of you, but has never really spent time with you. A co-worker is simply someone who works with you, they may or may not care about you. These areas do overlap, but do not be mistaken because you could get hurt. Iyanla Vanzant acknowledges, “Love is the foundation of the Universe. It is the reason we come to life and the reason for living.” And furthermore, onto relationships, if you rejected someone, you have their contact information and know where they live, why you are still focused on that person? It does not make sense, you need to let it go and move on. You want nothing to with that particular individual, so it is unhealthy to play games to get their attention. If you want something bad enough, you will go after it and not play games. You have free will, which means that you are capable of naturally making choices or decisions. “Fear is a vile thing, and is at the bottom of almost every wrong and hatred of the world.”

The economy has always expanded and contracted, but you need to make sure that you are ready for the worst and your life is recession proof. That does not mean you have to focus on doom and gloom, but let me teach you a few things. Learning proceeds best when feedback, or knowledge of results, allows you to check your progress. Feedback can help you identify ideas that need extra practice. Knowing that one really understands the material is the best feedback one can get. If you are going to remember something, eventually you will have to retrieve it.

That is why it is important that you understand a subject, on your own terms, because you have to teach other people about what you have learned and you want to teach with conviction and passion, so you need to know what you are talking about. You cannot just restate what the author said, you have to know why he said it and what the concept means. There more you rehearse or mentally review information, the easier it will be to remember. Also, you want to do an elaborate rehearsal, by making connections to existing knowledge—to learn executive level material you have to dissect it and actively understand the concepts to the point that you can teach them to others and they understand. Also, text books are filled with a lot of fluffy, just focus on the concepts.

It is better that you understand the full body of work you are undertaking. If you read a book from the middle to the end, you will miss critical information. You can break this task down into parts, the beginning, middle and end. Just make sure you know what you are talking about before you move on. Also, pay special attention to the topics and concepts in the middle, they are generally the most overlooked areas. Overlearning is also a good idea. He may have a college degree and experience, but we want him to really sit back and understand what is going on here.

Overlearning is your best insurance against legal drama, social and work conflict because you know what you are talking about and can crush inquires before they even get started. Also, you want to space out your learning. Sometimes it is best to learn a lot, and at other times just a little, but keep studying and working on concepts. Also, studying at night is a mistake, wake up early and the morning and plan your day around the material you need to learn. And always review. Also, queue cards are a mess. Write a script and put it on paper with important lines in bold or highlighted.

Concept formation is the process of classifying information into meaningful categories. Let go of emotional, cultural, learned and perceptual barriers and turn your dreams into goals. Goals are miles stones that you can reach.  And remember, your health is your most important asset. Get regular exercise, control smoking and alcohol use, and maintain stress.  Health is not just an absence of disease, people who are truly healthy are also happy and professional because they maintain optimal physical and psychological health.

Everyone is prone to bad moods and flare ups, but it should not be a constant state of being. Understanding stress, and learning to control it, can improve your quality of life and health.  Do not be afraid to laugh at yourself or admit you made a mistake. Humor is a good way to deal with stress, and can make people feel less defensive. Always look for workable compromises. You may have some frustrations and conflicts you have experiences and be prepare to discuss these issues so that you might be able to better handle them in the future.

Also, you may think you know more than others, but you may be overlooking possible alternatives these people will know about. If you want to learn to become a homeowner, rent a house or apartment for a reasonable length of time before buying. Sometimes it is best to select a course of action and stick with it, unless it is very obvious wrong after you have taken it.  The purpose is to make the work place comfortable and more professional and reduce anxiety, threat, or feelings of inadequacy. Everyone is good at something and has a place in this World.

As a couple, even if you both lose your jobs, you can both get jobs at Mc Donald’s, and live Middle class lives. However, if you are single and get fired and cannot get a high paying job, life becomes a lot more difficult. Could you imagine being single and living on $1,400.00 a month, you are not even qualified to rent. You need to make three times as much as the rent to afford the house. For a $700.00 house, you need to make at least $25,200.00 annually.  If you are single and get sick, who will care for you? And what I want you to realize, it is easier to make it as a couple, instead of an individual.

That is why it is best to be faithful and make your relationships work. “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.” –The Constitution for the United States of America

Maintaining relationships is not always so easy. The way to be happy with your relationship is to be happy with one. The feeling of self-love will make it easier for one to establish relationships with family, friends, coworkers, employers and authority figures. To have a long lasting relationship, one has to appreciate their partners, family and friends. There has to be a form of commitment, open communication, realistic expectations, mutual interest and the ability to resolve conflict.  If these conditions are not met, it is unlikely that a relationship will flourish. People are always changing, and so will your methods for dealing with your loved ones.  Relationships often times do not just happen, people have to build a relationship.  Most people say what helps any relationship is to be friends first. People usually like good qualities in a person. It is good to be caring, giving, respectful, and possess a sense of humor. Everyone has flaws, but as long as they have more good qualities, it is important to build a relationship with these types of people.  “In your unfailing love, you will lead the people you have redeemed. In your strength you will guide them to your holy dwelling.” -Exodus 15:13

When you fall in love, it is usually a slow process and you are attracted to things that make you feel good. So, if you like to laugh and someone makes you laugh all the time, that feels good, and you want to be around them. Then, they start making concessions in your life. For example, “If you want to be with me, you have to tell me everyone you dated, did you have sex with them? What did you guys do?” After they get your dating history, then they want to start negotiating. “I am going to need you to get rid of everything you own, stop talking to your family and stay off of social media.” At this point, you consider what they are saying. And your spouse sees you are not going along with it, so then they start blackmailing you, following you and acting like they are too good for you. You noticed the changes, and have made up in your mind, “This is not what I want, but I’ll let it play out and see what happens.” So their birthday comes up, you send them an expensive gift, and they stop talking to you and do not even say thank you, then start taking pictures will all these people and going out without you. That makes anyone feel unappreciated. Since you were never really in a real relationship, and they are treating you bad, you clown them and leave them the hell alone. They keep fluttering in your face, trying to annoy you or make you jealous, and then you clown them again, they get all sad.

Happy Thanksgiving, Love and Peace to all!

Listen, no one has time for games, you should have never let your fake friends try to run your life. When you are single, they will not be there, they just hated the person you were dating and wanted to ruin that for you. When you get dumped, they will all be gone, too. At this point, it is clear to see that the person you treated badly has really moved on, and you find that you are alone, people dislike you and you are still in love, but your ex does not want you back…so what do you do to get your ex back? It is pretty clear you hurt this person, and they have other options. So, if you really love this person, you have to buy your way back into their hearts. They were willing to give you their love for free, but “You took advantage of every chance you got.” Not only that, but “compromising oneself in a victim’s solitude, and being flexible was supposed to prove that I love you,” yet that was not going enough. Basically, “you are using their love as a weapon against them,” and that is why, if you have a chance of getting you ex back, you have to buy them something big to show you are serious. Like a new ring, car, or house. Let us face it, there are a lot of people out there, people who are more mature; and if you are serious, prove it. Actions speak louder than words. Make a big ticket item purchase or move on. “I know I am not what you want, if tomorrow the World ends. Why should we not be with the one we really love?” –Harris

World Peace and Love.