Now that we are in the twenty-first century, about 63 percent of women with children have a stable career. Additionally, there are more homes with two parents working, about 50 percent of households have two working parents and only 3.4 of households have stay me dads. Working fathers work and average of 51 hours a week; which is about 11 hours more than a full-time job. Working mothers work an average 42 hours a week, and are paid about 25 percent less than men, who work the same hours and have the same career. Co-provider families are considered experimental, and they have problems that a single provider family does not have. There are more women in the work force, yet, they domestic responsibilities have not changed much at all. Working women are stilled expected to do the shopping, cook, take care of the kids, and preform house work. While working men mostly just work and hire people to do manly duties around the house like building the fence, remodeling the kitchen and gardening. Sometimes if they have a male son, then he will simply do the yard work, and the mother takes care of all other responsibilities. Many are saying that it is unjust that women continue to carry a disproportionate share of family responsibilities, and are paid less, for the same job. It is almost like working mothers only get time off when they are sleeping. 

There have been improvements in men’s participation in childcare and other domestic responsibilities. In 2001, only 1.2 percent of fathers were stay at home dads, today that number is almost 4 percent. Even daytime television is starting to target stay at home dads by airing manly TV shows, in the morning and afternoon, and targeting men with cleaning products and hygiene products. Day time TV used to mostly target women and that is why there were so many soap operas on TV about ten years ago. In 1980, less than 15 percent of children were cared for by their fathers, today that number is up to 18 percent. Some of these days may be taking time off of work, just to support their working wife, and spend time with their children. However, when both parents are home, women are usually expected to deal with the children.  It is estimated that women spend about 33 hours a week doing housework, and men spend about 20 hours, but I bet working men spend far less than 20 hours a week on housework. Working men usually do not do housework, unless they know their wife is overloaded and the house is a disaster.  And, even though so women earn more than men, men still expect the women to do the housework. I think whoever makes the most should be the one to delegate housework. In addition, men think that working women are a threat because they are competing with their husband and not taking care of their children, like the men expect them to. Psalm 112:7 reports, righteous people are not afraid of unscrupulous news. Their minds are stable. They trust the Lord.

 When both parents are working, it does create conflict. Childcare is very expensive, about $500 a month per child. Also, more parents would like to see subsides day care for working parents with high incomes, and maybe a babysitter in the corporate office, so it is easier to deal with children. You can take them to work with you, and drop them off in the day care center located in your office. Sweden is actually believed to be the most family friendly and progressive environment in the industrial World. To keep balance in your home and peace in the family, just be flexible. Try to understand where your spouse is coming from. The keys to success start with self-confidence, which is the belief that one can effectively carry out an activity or reach an objective. Changes are not going to happen overnight, but let your family and corporation know you wishes, but be very polite and just say, “These are some options I would like to consider in the future.” Until then, just keep in mind that you are whole, perfect, complete, fair, rich, simple, alive, beautiful, good, unique, happy, honest, self-sufficient, and very intelligent. Psalms 41.1-2 reports, blessed is he who has regard for the weak; the Lord delivers in times of trouble. The Lord will protect and preserve your life. When you are professional and there is good coming from inside of you, people are likely to listen because you are intrinsically motivating them and setting a good example.

 Matthew 12.35 reports, good people bring out good things from the good stored in them.  Remember, tied to quality work is responsibility, a good attitude, and good salaries, promotions, and bonuses. By following these guidelines, you can avoid taking spontaneous risk. I have done so many things in my life. Evil things, perhaps. But never inattentively, never wastefully…was I wrong? It is okay to admire other people and be respectful and smile. You can appreciate the beauty of another without being angry, bitter, or jealous. James 5.16 says to pray for each other and wish people well. You get what you put out in the World. Perhaps you are unhappy because you make a lot of other people unhappy. Your bad vibes, thoughts, actions and words are the reason you feel like you are less of a person. To be happy, you have to love yourself and find something that makes you feel connected to reality. On a personal level, psychologists have succeeded in teaching some people to control their anger and aggressive impulses. Anger control is a personal strategy for reducing or curbing anger. The key to self-control and keeping calm is to figure out what is upsetting you. Do you have a mental issue or is there a legitimate reason for you to be so angry and project that anger on to others? A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly (Prov 14:25). 

 To figure out what is truly going on, to limit anger, people are advised to: define the problem as precisely as possible. Are you mad because he took your parking space, or are you mad because you work up too late and did not make it to work in time to get your favorite parking space? Secondly, make a list of all of the possible solutions to deal with your anger issues. For example, are mad at Buffy because she is annoyingly happy and pretty, or do you just wish you had the same qualities as Buffy, and instead of trying to be a better person, you just hate her? Next, think about some solutions to your problems. If you want to be more like Buffy, maybe you can get to know her and find out what she is doing to be so happy. Then, choose a solution to your problem. If you want that parking space, go to bed earlier and wake up on time. If you want to be as smart as Kurtis, then spend more time studying. In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. (James 2:17). And lastly, consider how successful the solution to your problem is and make adjustments if necessary. Taking these steps has helped many people to lessen tendencies toward child abuse, family violence, and other destructive outburst.  There are also programs out there to help you deal with your anger issues talk to your doctor and I am sure they can help you. It is clear that there are a lot of mentally unhealthy people in society, they do not smile, and they are constantly spreading their unhappiness.

 Isaiah 35:8 reports, a highway will be there; it will be called the Way of Holiness; it will be for those who walk on that Way. The unclean will not journey on it; wicked fools will not go about on it. However, there are still a lot of good people in society, who believe in being prosocial. Prosocial behavior is actions that are constructive, altruistic, or helpful for others. You have to notice others and care about their well-being. What would happen if you got beat up and were left lying in a pool of your own blood and people walk by and laughed at you? Would you want someone to stop? Or would you like them to ignore you and let you die? “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 7:12). Another good idea is to take responsibility, do not be a victim; you are the architect of your own fate and happiness. Being angry with others will get you nowhere, try to be a good person, try to help others, and try to care. You have to do this with a true heart and no malice. It is okay to talk to other people and say nice things to them. Everyone wants to feel included, and clearly you do too, or else you would not be so angry and mean. “For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Galatians 5:14).