Travelling after Fortune is not the way to secure her. Selective attention is when one gives priority to a particular incoming sensory message and puts others on hold. To further illustrate my point, your boss tells you, “Do not even think about dating anyone,” and you listen to her for a while, but then time goes on, and someone shows you a little attention and the next thing you know, you find yourself attracted to this person. This could be because you are around lot of very mature people, and when you met someone young, you are attracted to their youth and not so much their personality. However, in the back of your mind, you remember what your boss told you, but because the command that was given to you in the past, it starts to narrow as new information comes in.

During whatever you want to call the process you are going through with this new person, and your bosses’ instructions, your attention started to become divided because you remember what she told you, but then you also see that there might be a slim possibility that something could workout.  So one kind of goes back and forth, knowing that the decision he or she is making is wrong and could blow up in their face, but they do it anyway. I think this is because in the past, the individual knew a relationship would not workout, and ended it soon to prevent investing too much feeling. However, when reflecting on past relationships, one often wonders, “Did I try hard enough?” Chances are you did, but some things are simply not meant to be, so one’s subconscious allows the same pattern from the past to play out to prove to you that no matter how hard I try or how nice you are, some things are just not meant to be. It is basically a learning process. 

Before one can move on, he or she needs to know for sure that no matter what, this time won’t be different. Also, pay attention to how you meet these people and notice how similar they are. For some reason, they are drawn to you, and they know personal information about you, they used this information to make a way into your life so they can manipulate you. However, it is your entire fault because you allowed it.  You were warned, and have had experiences like that in the past. The other party is not at fault because you took it there. All they are doing is sending you subtle messages, and because you are looking for something, you read way too far into them, and try to make something out of nothing.

Now, when the other party gets what they want out of you, they back off, and so you also have to do the same. Look at the messages you are sending that other party, how many times did he or she reply? Maybe once or twice directly, but you are reading these subtle messages and they know they are getting you hooked, when you back off, they start bringing up more information to pull you back in. These people do not care about you, they like to play games and see what they can get out of you, and some just want to see you suffer. Perhaps in the future, ask to be introduced to someone, or break the cycle, and find someone you like.

Until you get a backbone and the courage to go after what you want, you will attract the wrong kind of person because you are giving off a desperate type of energy and they sense that. Just be more confident, realize that you are attractive and worthy, and when someone, who truly cares about you, tells you to not do something, listen! It is like being at a cocktail party; you are all caught up and excited, but look at the environment. You know better, and the cycle should be broken. If anyone wants your attention in the future, make them earn it and be glad you have not gone to bed with these people thinking it would workout.”  Apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge. -Proverbs 23:12