Love is a special kind of attitude with strong emotional and good behavioral components. When you love someone, you care for them deeply and want to protect them and make them happy. Violence is not fun, and it is a problem that every human being, everywhere on this planet, unfortunately faces. Human nature is not instinctively violent—we all start out neutral in this regard. However, it is the learning that occurs in the classroom, the playgrounds, in the streets, institutions, at work and sometimes what people learn in the home makes them violent. Nonetheless, there are other factors, which can make people want to react viciously. Much violence is spawned by frustration. Frustrations will always be found where an individual’s basic needs go unsatisfied. Some people get so enraged by events, and cannot control their anger, and they might react to the news of their girlfriend breaking up with them by shooting her through the bathroom door. Or after a night of drink, a man maybe frustrated that his girlfriend was dancing with another guy, and when she tries to draw closer to him, he knocks her out cold, and then drags her out of the elevator to a private room, where she can wake up. Intimate partner violence is a serious and preventable issue. Intimate partner violence (IPV) includes rape, sexual assault, robbery, aggravated assault, and simple assault, by a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. Intimate partner violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime.

 However, violence by an intimate partner is hard to measure because it is usually done in private and goes unreported. People fear reporting the event because they are afraid of being punished by their partner or losing a much needed second income to pay the bills. Between 21-60 percent of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse. Where poverty is the frustrator, it is not only up to the government, but also to individual citizens and groups to pressure for the eradication of poverty. It is organized violence, at the top, which creates individual violence at the bottom. It is the accumulated indignation against organized wrong, organized crime, organized injustice, which drives the offender to act. If one gets ahead at the expense of another individual—or of whole groups of people—that inequality pollutes the society, and I cannot be surprised at the violence that results. Nonetheless, individual responsibility is the key. Every year, more than 20 million men and women are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner. As it stands, 50 percent of women report IPV and 20 percent of men report IVP events. Some violence is created by mental and emotional disorders, for which successful treatment is sometimes available. You may think that your personal relationship problems are no big deal because they just involve you and your spouse, and you are in love. While love is the soul of harmony, the connecting chain that links the whole frame of being; it is the glory of nature, and the very perfection of humankind, love can also be dangerous if you are being abused. Where the heart is really attached, one can be little pleased with the attention of anybody else.

 Everything is insipid, uninteresting, which does not relate to the one you are in love with, and when you break up, you are not interested in anyone else, for any reason. You just want to be alone and heal. Deeper than melancholy lies heartbreak, when love ends, one does not lust after another, their sex drive perishes, with their broken heart, as love is not the same as lust. Love is beauty. Love is of the spirit and knows not death. When people find love, they do not want to let go, and sometimes allow themselves to stay in an abusive relationship. Yet, keep in mind that 1,300 people die each year from an abusive relationship. People need to learn to communicate and talk their issues out, so it does not result in violence. What is learned about human behavior and aggression need to be effectively shared. Many people wonder why they are being abused by someone they love, and if it is not because the aggressor has a mental problem, it could be that the aggressor has control issues. Some people believe that because you are their intimate partner, they have dominion over you and can do as they please. Sometimes, if your intimate partner is not the focus of your attention, he or she may get upset and want to have a physical altercation. Other confuses violence with an expression of love. Your partner may be violent toward you because they blame you for their outward performance, at work, on sports teams or in video games. Or when someone suspects you cheated on them or has proof, they may react violently. Men have reported that they have hit their spouses in the past because she did not know when to shut up. Or she ran up on him and got in his face and as a reflex, defense mechanism, he knocked her out.

 These are not excuses or anything, but sometimes it is best, even for a woman, to just let the man have the last word and walk away. And men, if you feel the need to hit anyone, also try to walk away. It is not about being right, it is about protecting yourself for being hit or killed. Furthermore, it is not always men who are abusive, sometimes it is also women. Also, many people have stereotypes of masculine men as abusive, but sometimes women are abused by women or men they considered kind and gentle, so we cannot generalize. People can still be really good at heart, and sometimes they make a mistake. However, if you do not find out the reason your partner hit you, and you stay with them it is likely they will do it again. It is recommended that you find out what happened, so you can avoid that action, which got your spouse upset. This does NOT justify the abuse, but just like if you get selected to take a random test at work, you are going to want to know why. That is all. Love, in general, arises from the pleasure which all individuals naturally take in whatever they judge or perceive to be good and perfect. To be wise ad love is hardly granted to the gods above. Love is as ingenious to torment as to flatter. When you are in love with someone, you want to spend time with them, you compliment them, tell them how beautiful they are. However, if one does not love at once, it takes a long time to teach that person what love it. Do not become forceful or impatient. As soon as a one awakens another’s passions, one begins to idealize you and there is no limit to the virtues this individual will be made to carry. However, just keep in mind there are two paramount ingredients of love and affection, and they are knowledge and acceptance—get to know the person you love and get to know them well and make sure you accept them and they accept you. One thing that is often missing in abusive relationship is friendship and real love. There are a thousand familiar disputes, which reason can never decide.